Some Assembly Required: Week 4 Part 1


Lord, sometimes I just want to do things my way. Help me resist acting like who I was before I belonged to you. Amen.


READ: I Peter 1:14-16

As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.”



People have varied and sometimes intense reactions to the word “holy”. They can range from rolling their eyes to feelings of hopelessness over the challenge of measuring up. For some it is no more than a long list of do’s and don’ts.

One dimension of holiness is positional holiness. We experience positional holiness when we enter into a covenant relationship with God and accept his son Jesus as Lord and Savior. When we declare our belief that Jesus is the Son of God and he died so our sins can be forgiven, we stand in a position of holiness, covered with the blood of Christ, and declared holy and righteous in the sight of God.

The second way we experience holiness is the process of holiness. This occurs as we submit to God’s Spirit living in us and his transformational work of making us more and more into the likeness of Jesus. This transformational work continues for all our life. As we take on the character of Christ – His holiness – we move away from our old self-centered ways and into a new life of love.

This transformation is manifest in hundreds of small and big ways throughout our daily interactions as husbands and wives. It is seen in the way we talk to each other, in acts of kindness – from taking out the trash to turning on the outside lights so your spouse feels welcomed when they return home after dark. Holiness may mean putting off buying that car, granite counter tops or a weekend in Kansas City in order to stay within budget rather than straining the family finances. Choosing to put each other first looks unique in each marriage.  But it will always resemble the character and love we see in the life of Jesus.



Marriages and relationships flourish when we choose to live lives that are holy and pleasing to God rather than the selfish way we lived before we became a Christ-follower.



Lord, I want my marriage to be all you intended it to be when you first joined man and woman together. Help me to choose loving my mate over pleasing myself. Amen.

Terry Schneider