Barriers to Intimacy

Opening Prayer: 

Jesus, purify my heart of the things that hold me back from a closer relationship with my spouse and a closer walk with you. Teach me to see the habits in my own life that are a stumbling block to attaining closer relationships.


Read: John 1:17, NIV

“For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.” 



When I was in fourth grade, I was coming down the stairs in the home we lived in at the time. My brother was in third grade and the two of us tended to spend all leisure time “battling it out.” On this particular day, I was coming around the corner in a part of the house where our stairway was. This made a great ‘launching pad’ for him to leap off and jump me. “Ouch!!” I was in great pain! He actually had caused me to pull a muscle and I limped around like an old man for a number of long, painful weeks while it healed. Now I can remember that story like it happened yesterday. He can probably remember stories that I can’t where I inflicted similar pain on him. The point here is that we have a tendency to remember offenses against us.

Christ came to give us grace (forgiveness from sin and eternal damnation) and truth (He is the way, the truth and the life). Through Christ’s blood, our sins of the past are covered and remembered no more…why can’t we give this same measure of grace to our spouses? More than likely, we have offended our spouses as much, or more, as they have offended us. So let us all walk with a great measure of grace and forgiveness and not let the devil have a foothold in our marriages. Unforgiveness, resentment and bitterness are all seeds of death for a marriage…be on guard to keep these evils out of your lives!



Is there an area of your marriage that is bound by past hurts? Do either you or your spouse harbor resentment toward one another for any reason? These types of barriers keep you from experiencing the fulfilling marriage you always wanted. Spend some quiet moments sharing these areas of your relationship so you can allow forgiveness and liberty to come in and break down every wall. None of us are perfect and we certainly cannot be the perfect spouses. Romans 8:1,2 says, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.” So let God set your marriage free and show you how to walk in grace and mercy toward your spouse today!


Closing Prayer: 

Lord, even though we are redeemed through your blood and have eternal life, we are still imperfect beings. It is only by your grace that we can have victory in every area of our lives…including our marriages!

Terry Schneider