Some Assembly Required: Week 4 Part 3


Lord, I want you to be reflected in my life today especially in the way I love my spouse. Help me bear your image in this most valuable of relationships. Amen.


READ:  John 13:34

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.



We are all interested in the bottom line – at the checkout counter, in the car dealer’s showroom, at the college enrollment office when we turn in the registration form. Whatever we are doing, we want to know the bottom line.

So what is the bottom line – the cost of doing business – when it comes to marriage?  The truth is the bottom line in marriage is just like every other bottom line we face as Christ-followers. To love like Jesus loves – that is the bottom line.

The problem is we do a pretty good job of that in our public life. But we struggle to keep up the standard at home, with those we love most. We feel obligated to keep it together at work – our paycheck is a strong incentive. While the bill from the dentist may be higher than we would like, we respect the service we received and pay it anyway. The neighbor paints his house a color we wouldn’t choose, but we keep our opinion to ourselves because we want a good relationship with the neighbors.

At home we feel free to criticize, insist things be done our way, expect our needs to be met and give little affirmation while expecting recognition from others when we do something right. Even though we don’t express gratitude or appreciation to our spouse or our kids, we look for it from them. Love is the starting point and the standard for all our relationships and especially in regard to those with whom we most closely share life.



Jesus taught that we should love God and love each other. Loving each other is the starting point from which God is honored both away from home and at home.



Lord, keep me mindful of the treasure that is mine in my relationship with my spouse and family. Help me give me best and be a reflection of your love in this area of my life. Amen.

Terry Schneider