The Fine Art of Failure: Week 3 - Day 3
Lord Jesus, I need You to help me speak kind and gentle words when an issue needs to be confronted, and leave the work of creating changes in another’s heart to you.
Read: 2 Timothy 2:24-26 NIV
And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.
Confronting people is not an easy thing for most of us. Several years ago, my wife walked by my office door while I was confronting an employee over an issue. She told me later she had never heard that tone of voice from me. I was not shouting but I was firm in my statements of what must change if the individual was going to retain his job. This points to a problem many of us have. Professionally we have one side when dealing with a concern in others and another side when we are with family or friends.
Confronting family or friends is much more difficult than it is to confront professionally. We want to protect the relationship - therefore we hold back confronting them because we don’t want to destroy our relationship with them. This scripture tells us how to do it correctly, so we can let the individual know that they have a sin problem and need to make a correction.
Several years ago, a friend whom I admire was willing to confront a destructive behavior in a son who was away from home. As soon as the father was made aware of the behavior, he resolved that he was not going to let his son go under. He contacted his support group to pray for him while he made the trip to his son’s community and met with him. He utilized all the attributes mentioned in 2 Timothy as he met with his son. The meeting went well, which he credited to our prayers. He didn’t prescribe a resolution to his son, but he turned it over to God to finish the task. The change took time, but it was in the Lord’s hands and the father felt a peace about it.
This week reread this Scripture carefully, meditate on it, and internalize it. When an issue arises in your family that needs to be addressed you will be equipped to address it properly. Through all of this you must remember that the resolution of the situation is still in the Lord’s hands.
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight, Oh Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14