The Parent Race: Week 2 - Day 3
Lord help us to identify attitudes inside of us that do not reflect you. Let your word correct us and your spirit guide us towards grace for ourselves and others. Amen.
Read: James 1:22, NIV
“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”
Do you have any habits or traditions you inherited from growing up in your particular family? For some, it’s a certain way of celebrating holidays. For others, it’s off the wall food combinations. One thing is for certain – as children, we are absorbing all sorts of things through watching our caregivers. Children are also fine-tuned to catch hypocrisy or unfairness. So when a parent speaks about the importance of loving others or honoring God and then does something else entirely with their actions, children take notice.
This is a painful truth and one that can easily turn into legalistic perfectionism. I’ve noticed my kids pick up bad habits from me and it’s alarming. However, it’s also important to remember that, just like us, children are resilient and can grow alongside us towards consistently honoring God with our words and actions. In a way, as they’re picking up modeled behavior, they’re also reflecting back to us the areas we have to work on – like helpful little mirrors. Identifying behaviors that don’t align with our faith and doing the work of sanctification in ourselves will spill over into our children’s lives as well.
Give yourself, your family, and your children grace in the process of applying God’s word to your lives. Seeing a parent make a mistake, acknowledge it, and then make the necessary adjustment is a powerful lesson for kids. In day to day life, talk about the importance of following God’s word with your actions to help this practice take root. This is something we will all continue to do over the course of our lives and is a healthy part of growing.
Thank you, God, for grace. Thank you for giving us instruction and building growth and resurrection into your design. Your plan is perfect. Amen.